Oct 17, 2008

Choosing Clothes, but Not Husbands (Avish)

"'The girl is a trophy piece,' said Ms. Mawjzada"
This sentences comes from the article "Choosing Clothes, but Not Husband" by Joseph Berger. This article is quiet interesting, as much we read further, it becomes more interesting. In this article all the things mentioned is on facts base. I think, this article is very informative. 
When i read this sentences at that time i didn't thinked much about it. But later on when this sentence came to my mind i got so many ideas about "the girl is a trophy piece", not only trophy, but more then a trophy. A man gets good and gentle on the base of a women. Often males do many things for women, even if those things are not going to be useful to women except for themselves.
When a kid grows up to a teenage boy. Usually he looks for a good, sexy and pretty girlfriend. In the begging of the teenage, boys are not knowing how to dress well, how to be good, how to be mature and how to be a good personality. Boys just behave in ways that they want and live on. But when they needs a disirable girl, boys learn everything and they try to change themselves to be nice and impressive to the girl, to whom they want to be boyfriend of her. In this case girl change the boy from improper to proper. 
When  a man gets married to a women. If he is having bad habits like smoking or anything else or if that man's nature is quiet unkind or careless. Then the women is the one who can change the whole man from his mind and even from his heart, through her love. Later on when a man gets older, often only his wife becomes his stick to walk the rest of life with the all misrable situations.
I am not saying that only a woman can change man's life, there are many other things which also affects the man's thinking. But women are the main cause of behaviour changes of a person. After all, every man has to stay in the woman for nine months, to be capable to born properly with two hands and two legs and also a woman can only give the experiance of being father to man by giving him another part of his own, a new baby.
So from this points, girls are not only a trophy piece, but more then a trophy.     

2 comments:

Leslie said...

A good woman is a school

I remember I read an article named "A good woman is a school." A man who meets a good woman will turn into a real man, as if he has gone through education in a school.

It might be the similar feeling you got. I completely agree with you and it is also the reason I still remember that article. Therefore, it's so important for a woman to be a good woman, since she may influence another man, as well as their children, and bring more real men into this world.

And a man who can meet such a good woman must be blessed by God.

However, in my understanding to the sentence in the article, it seems it's more about the reputation of family. A girl may either stain a good family reputation by defying the tradition and choose husband by themselves, or bring good reputation to a family by abiding by the tradition.

I wait for your refute.

Leslie said...

Avish

Well i agree with you, except for one thing that a good women gets marry to whom her parents choose and if she don't do that, then her family's reputation gets bad.
I don't think that a girl has no right to choose husband or has second priority. Because after she gets marry with the guy whom her parents choose, if that guys don't belive in love, bit his wife (that girl whose parents choose her husband) like afghans and make her unhappily for the whole life, then who is going to sufer those things, who is going to give her her previous life and happiness.

Another thing i would like to say is, in this modern age, if a girl gets marry to whom her parents say to marry, is uneducated girls. And if that girl can't take dicision on her own about choosing her life partner than how she is going to change a man into a good and gentle. And also how she will make her kids educated and gentle.