Oct 28, 2008
An impressive word:appreciate (Quincy Shen)
This quote comes from " The Achievement of Desire."
People know what is freedom of speech, especially in a free, capitalistic state-America. Depends on this country's culture and revolution, it's not strange to see people here have some kind of opinions like this; the subtle relationship between they and their parents became estranged.
When you received a better education than your parents, you were embarrassed by their lack of education. However, if your parents were better than you, how would they feel? I think most good parents will help you to improve, and even hope you to be better than them. The power to embarrass someone not only gave you.
My parents were better educated, but they did not have time to teach me. I was confused if your parents are famous artists and graduated in a famous university, but they are not good at Maths, how to consider them? or you need all-around parents? or you just want to depend on your parents?
If parents told you, "everything you have learnt from school was all for your futher, not for me."
What will you do? Why some children successed, others would not? It was a true story anyway.
I think the most important thing is learn to apperciate. Parents paid a lot for you, whatever they do, except serious things, and whatever they like, you should respect to them, never feel embarrassed about their poor education and useless. Because one day, you will like them.
Oct 26, 2008
Our Eternal Proudness(Xiaojing Wu)
This is an idea which I can never agree with. No matter in what kind of situation or at which point, we should always be proud of our parents, even they are lack of education.
They are the people who brought us to the world. They are the people who bring us up. Withour them, we would not have chances to be educated.
When we were a little child, it was our not well educated parents taught us how to walk, how to speak, how to write. They are the first two teachers in our lives.
When I was young, I used to ask my parents academic questions. When I was a teenage, my parents and I discussed academic questions and I will tell them academic knowledge from now on. I am proud of my parents forever.
The Achievement of Desire (Soo Jin Park)
From ‘The achievement of desire’
I think he was just young and confused. He was raised with hardworking, barely educated Spanish parents and when he was introduced to school and the way to escape into education. He didn’t know how to balance the two. I think knew his parents were proud of him, he was trying to find himself, and he didn’t know how to become a little bit of both worlds, without turning his back on either one.
Who is the best teacher? (Heeyoun Huang)
"One father is more than a hundred schoolmasters."
I think our parents are the best teachers for us.
Even though some parent have lower education degree than us our somebody else, they always do best things for their child. What do we learn from them is about the "life". life is the most important thing we should learn to be able to go through. However, that would be stupid to stay at home with parents all day, trying to learn something. ask them, when you need help or important suggestion. because they could been through what you are going to do.
always remember, better respect them otherwise, you will recieve same treatment from your children.
YunJu Chung "I teach my kids that...."
There is no doubt that parents play an important part. If it is so, family should teach us everything.? Of course, they call what is right right, and wrong wrong. and they hope we make a success in life. However, another parents do not like that. For example, my parents make me and my younger brother to decide for ourselves. I think it makes me if I do something I should act on my own responsibility. I cannot be making choices what is good and bad, but I just think parents do not have to teach everything.
3 things for education (Seungbae Lee)
---Rudolf Steiner
Imagination-- Children need imagination. If children didn't train for imagination, they cannot think more and creatively when they get older. When they became adult, they cannot train for imagination, their imagination rather get shorter.
I think 3 things are important. If I have to choose one, I will choose responsibility first. Responsibility is very important for social life. For example, when I was young, I always messed my room. My father said that I have to clean my own room. I think it is the fundamental responsibility for human.
Min Kim.
-John F. Kennedy-
we should have a high dream. and make every endeavor.
I'm sure that everybody will succeed, if does not abandon.
Parents are the best teacher.(Sungjoon Hong)
Parents should be the effective role models to their children. This is largely because parents can show commendable examples to their children to follow in daily environment while having meals, having conversation, exercising and cleaning up. Therefore, parents can have significant influences on their children who learn by imitating and observing every word spoken and action by their parents.
"Achievement of Desire,"Mayur Raniya.
was changing me and separating me from the life i enjoyed before becoming a student," said by Richard Rodriguez in the article named "Achievement Of Desire." Whenever i read this quote it always reminds me of my childhood. Whatever the writer has mentioned here in this quote is absolutely true for me because i have gone through this same situation. After graduating from the school i took admission in the college and i met many students around me with different mentalities. Some are just wanted to enjoy their life having relationships with girls, partying with friends and much more things that give them enjoyment whereas some just wanted to focus on their studies. They don't want to be like those other students and i am also one of them. Now i can realize that i have many different things in me from my classmates. During my schooling, i was very serious about my studies and i was concentrating on my studies only. I was not enjoying my life like other children like playing games, watching movies,etc. In the class i had different opinions on any topics from my other classmates as well as at home from my parents too. I was the favorite student of my teachers and they encouraged me a lot in finding the right path in my life and from that time i decided to be something in life and by keeping that in mind it always kept me away from those extra activities and same kind of response i got from my parents too so i became more and more serious about my studies and i think somewhere insight i was more mature than my other colleagues. Whenever they had talk with me i felt like they still have childish behavior. I know that many students are there who just want to have fun at that time and they think that they will become serious later on but in my opinion it's too hard to do that and if you failed to do so that will be too late for you and you won't achieve whatever you have dreamed of in your life and you will be repenting for that. So the wisest step is to take the right decision at your early age so that it won't be hard for you to accomplish your dream.
What is your choice?(Yingshan Hu)
The Greatest Love from Parents
Ambition set me apart!
As the writer said that “A primary reason for my success in the classroom was that I couldn’t forget that schooling was changing me and separating me from the life I enjoyed before becoming a student, the high education sometimes separate us from a lot of things. It is a simple realization that ambitions set people apart.
In the article, the author would feel “oddly annoyed when I was unable to get parental help with a homework assignment”. As he became more and more educated, the distance between his parents became longer and longer.
In the real life, people will always feel this way. When I was an elementary school student, my parents could teach me to solve the math problems. However when I became a high school student, their abilities became limited.They could not even solve a math problem which is really easy for me. I also remember once I blamed my mum because she didn’t know how to use the computer even though I had taught her thousands of times.
Though we should admit that in nowadays society the education has become extremely important, the goal for getting a higher education really sets people apart. It is common that these days the high educated people will really look down upon the people who are not well educated. Even among the people who have the same education, the separation is clear. These people will separate themselves from each other. They take each other like competitors, and they are afraid the others will do a better job than themselves. Everyone becomes selfish. People don’t want to share any more.
I hope that we can look back to our young age at the same time when we study further. We really lost a lot of happiness. Education set us apart and we become colder than before. Don’t let the ambition set us apart.
Yongfei Gu:That's a kind of parents' love.
Some people think we will have an abyss with our parents as higher education as we gain.As the author said he cannot afford to admire his parents.However,I am not agree with that.Because,higher education doesn't mean you can have a better life and doesn't mean you can shame on your family.
First of all,parents,they always have more experiences than us;they are well acquaint with how to live and how to get on well with others.They have so many thing which are well worth admiring and learning for us.
Second,you cannot live in this world without your parents.They gave you the birth and gave you all the material conditions in order to let you gain a better education.Though they sometimes have the opposite ideas and behaviors against you,we can try to communicate with them and try to influence them instead of embarrassing at their lack of education.
Eventually,parents love their children and hope them can live better than themselves,so,they try their best to give us the best suggestions they think and tell us which way we should go further while which we should not.Although sometimes the suggestion sounds not so nice for us,that just a kind of love only from parents to their children.We should respect them even they didn't have so much education.
No Reason for Feeling Shamed
The God is fair to everyone.(Shuhui Wang)
I think we should not regret about the past thing, we should look forward. Can we change the thing that has already happened? No we can not.So we do not have the right to regret.
Just look forward and try your best to finish the thing before your eyes.
The grass is always green on the other side (xiaoshu zhu)
Oct 25, 2008
dealing the decision you made(Jiaqi Huang)
I am agree with the writer about study hard have some negative influence for the students. But I don't think miss a lot of things is one of the negative influence. what I think is the writer can not accept the result after she make the dicision. All of us just a person who have limited ability. There are many possible ways in front of us, most of time we just can choose one of them. Once we made the dicision, we have to accept the result bring from the dicision. Just like you want to do the excellence student in the school, you have to give up many activities and spend more time in study.That is so fair. We can't say it is a negative side of study hard. There are a long time I alway regreted my dicision after I made it. I thought I pick one thing, then lost so many things. I was focus too much on the things i did't pick, then they become better and better in my mind. The decision what I made become worse and worse. I knew what i thought was wrong, I just don't know how to fix it and stop thinking that way. Until one day, I heard a sentence: The real growing up isn't about making the right decision, is about dealing the decision you made and picking yourself up. After that, i don't regret when the problem comes up after made the decision. I won't think too much about if I pick the other way when I made the decision, those problems may not come up. I will focus more on how to dealing those problem when them come up. It was work, I am really feeling better about that. So, don't regret what you lose after you made decision, more focus on what you got.
parents make their child to have narrower mind (jake yoon)
by Scott Adams
some parents make their children to have narrower minds. Of course, if their sons or daughters are not mature to make their decision, their parents have to teach and control what is wrong and what is right. however, when they are getting older, their parents have to control what they want to say, they cannot say what is wrong and what is right, becuase it could make them to have wider thinking, or sometimes they cannot have critical thinking.
in my case, when i was young, my parents used to tell me what is wrong and what is right, becasue i didn't know what is good thing or not. but when i was getting old, they stoped to tell me what is wrong and what is right, they just told me a better way to do something. becuase i was mature to decide what is wrong and what is right.
So now, i realized what i have to do to my child later on.
HyunJu Ji: For whom an education is
Black and other minority peoples have for some time recognized that their racial and ethenic experience was not accounted for in the studies broadly labeled human; and that even the sciences can be racist.
- Claming an Education
Usually, a history is written by a conqueror. And subjugated people do not have rights of choices. Therefore, the social weak people take education based on “theirs”, the conqueror, point of view. Men, broadly, white men were the strong in our society. Moreover, we, women and colored people, have learnt “their”, white men, thoughts. Although, some of the weak people fight with this problem they are just labeled heterodox people. For example, a feminist and a black human rights activist these names are actually named by white men. Social minorities just claim their rights to get along with all but a society makes them different group of people. Unfortunately, sometimes, an education becomes a good means to make people to fit our, I mean "their"-white men, society.
what is education? - Heekyung.CHO
=Quote from The achivement of Desire.
What do you think about education. So you think education is inevitable and have to things on our life?
I think education is not an inevitable but its necceserily.
In the advanced world society people get a lot of education level in their society.
during our life, we studied a lot of things for future. that is one of or whole education system.
First reason of our education is our success life. many people think the best education can bring our success life. I also agree with that opinion.
Because, on our education times, we can get a lot of experiences about life. that can bring our wisely life methods. that is one of the education's results.
If we learned something that can be useful .
So, education is one of the great way of sucess. I think educated people can sucess more than uneducated people
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my parents is never smater than me?(jake yoon)
"Your parents must be very proud of you"
the achievement of desire by Richard Rodriguez
when i was young, if i did something well, always, not sometimes, always they said "your parents must be very proud of you" and i felt very very good.
however, this confused of him, the author. because when he grew older, he realized the lack of his parents' education.
Of course, you can be more highly educated than your parents, but education is not just one thing that someone is better or not. life experience for example, involves education also. you are younger than your parents, so you don't have much life experience than your parents. So you cannot say im smarter than my parents. Even if your parents do not know how to solve the math problems or do not understand science equestions than you, they do know more about how to save money, which is the fast way to deal with people, something like this than you.
For me, i know how to speak english, and i can have conversation with my american friends. but none of my family can do this. so im proud of myself. it doesn't mean that im smarter than my parents or becuase of their lack of english i don't have to learn about anything from them.
i still think that i have a lot of things to learn from my parents.
Truly, I DON'T KNOW.
I've never thought about my parents like that, so i really don't know.
even im getting older, i didn't think about it.
it can also depend on many kinds of people, it can affect differently to people from another country, or different sex, different people who have different thought.
Oct 24, 2008
The Achievement of desire (Avish)
Oct 20, 2008
"Your parents must be very proud" (Svetlana)
In class we were discussing a problem when parents are less educated than their children. I think children who got into situation like that should be humiliated but happy because they have an opportunity to study which their parents probably didn’t have when they were young. Children should respect and appreciate a chance of getting education and as a result building successful life. These children, in my opinion, should not be embarrassed by the level of own parent’s education, but must be thankful to them, because parents are people who give them opportunity to study.
They are main supporters of own children in any beginnings.
We Could't Change What Nature Gives Us (xiaoshu zhu)
Don't tell them what to do (Svetlana)
Many people use such a method raising their kids. As a result many of them fail as parents. I think it’s very important to give a chose to a child. Parents give him/her ability to decide and figure out things on their own. The parents should not teach the children the absolute rights or absolute wrongs. They should direct the child, so he/she would make a right moral decision but would have his/her own view of the situation. The person’s behavior should be based on the learned absolutes and extremes, but on the experience. The role of parents is to give their own experience to their children, so they would have it in mind.
Oct 19, 2008
Sensibility (Xiaojing Wu)
What makes this difference between men and women? I don’t know. I think the reason for why women can talk like that it’s because women are sensitive and perceptual. Unlike most of the men who are rational. Women can easily get the feeling that the speaker want to express. When someone tells a heartbreaking story, women can imagine images of the story and feel the painful sense in their mind, and then women will sympathize with the speaker, listening to him quietly. It is also because of the sensibility women can recall their feelings when they are talking. They know how to represent their feeling into words. These ability really seems like natural for women.
Younghee Jeong
I heard that "that is right or that is wrong" before I had tought about it is wrong or right. and it is true that I had to accept that without applying anycritical thinking.
sometimes I feel that it is hard to make a critical thinking. Bacause I usually hear what others think about, what should I do if my thinking is different from others or do others think it is right or not? I am used to hear what people think about first before I tell my thought to others.
The Achievement of Desire (Soo Jin Park)
From 'The achievement of desire'
The mother asks her son, and he doesn’t respond with any enthusiasm to tell her about school. Personally, I feel it is necessary to keep a daily conversation between parents and children about their lives. Whether the son is asking his mother how work was or the father is asking his daughter how school was, the curiosity is a strong connection in the family’s relationship.
Are there right things and wrong things? (Heeyoun Huang)
My question for that quote from the cartoon is that "what is the standard for 'right' and 'wrong' things?. I understand parents don't want us to do bad thing. However, how are they figure that out if that is going to hurt ur kids or worth kids?
Sometimes, parents make wrong decision for their children. then how are you going to explain that if it was good thing? Before they taught something, they should talk to their children, talk and explain about it. In korea, there are many parents want their children to learn something that they think it's going to be worth for them, but it is not.
Like that example, they should just talk to children because parents could learn something from kids too.
YunJu Chung "Men and Their Hidden Feelings"
When I read these sentences, it reminds me a father's love I have forgotten frequently. We have grown up watching a father who is a bit blunt. Many fathers do not show on their face even though they have a weight on their mind. They have a strong sense of duty beacuse they are just a man and a father. We are just all human though. As Im growing older I could feel father's mind. I think we have to undertand and talk heart to heart more with father.
what Corita Kent said....(Yeajeong Lee)
This sentence from Corita Kent.
I love this sentence. Some of people don't like moment which is what they have it now. I think a lot of people have a plan for their future, but the most important thing is that people have to love this time. Even if they have some hard moment at this time, they try to understand what they got it now, and then, they should have positive minds. It will make yourself do the best for this hard moment and bring good result for you. If you love the moment that you have it now, nothing can be bad for you. Dont' you think so?
Yongfei Gu:Don't always hide yourselves.
Men is a group of strange creatures. Most of them are good at hiding their feelings.
I have a good friend. Her father and my father are good friends,too. Unfortunately,her father died couple months ago because of the heart disease. The truth is that her father's heart disease was congenital and nobody knows except his parents. I was shocked by the truth which my friend told me. Until now, we still do not understand why he and his parents did that. They lied to everybody even his wife and daughter, what was the purpose of them? Did he just want to live a normal life?Or something else?Anyway,I can not understand this behavior.
When I was a little girl,I aways heard that my aunt taught my brother"YOU ARE A MAN IN THE FUTURE NOT ONLY A BOY FOREVER,SO PLEASE BE BRAVE AND CRYING IS A BEHAVIOR ONLY BELONGING GIRLS."From then, I know,it turns out to be a rule for man.They should hidden their feelings in front of others though that is a quite difficult task.But in my opinion, everyone has the right to cry and everyone has the really sad things in their heart.If a person keeps everything in his own world,that will not have a good result, as well as my friend's family.
In a nutshell,everything will have the solutions.
People Like Us: The Quirkyalones, Mayur Raniya.
This quote is from an article "People Like Us: The Quirkyalones," written by Sasha Cagen. Quirkyalone means people who want to live their life alone. They dont want to be in relationship. I was reading this article and went through this quote i was amazed. I asked myself why these people dont wanna enjoy a normal cycle of life like get married and have kids after marriage to complete the family. In my opinion i think they enjoy being single and just dont want to be in relationship untill they find the right person rather than dating just for the sake of dating. Once they find someone like them for a long term romantic relationship are called quirkytogether. We have many people in 20's , 30's and 50's in our surroundings who just want to be quirkyaslone. They think that they are happy with their life and they can manage everything by themselves. They have some kind of strong feelings inside to be alone. Eventhough they find a match , they verge on obsessive or they resist. They think that there are advantages. No one can take their lives away by breaking up with them and instead of sacrificing their social constellation for the one all-consuming individual, they seek empathy from friends. They have significant others. So, i think because of this kind of thinking they rarely communicate with other people wether they are in a classroom or any office or at home also they just do their work and dont bother in any body's life.
Choosing Clothes, but Not Husbands(Yingshan Hu)
This quote is from “Choosing Clothes, but Not Husbands” by Joseph Berger. I very agree whit this sentence. I think the opinion of a good woman every person is not the same. But I think education is very important for women. Because a good education can improve person’s culture and open their mind. Even though people think now is a love freedom society, but some places still very traditional about love. This article is mention Afghan girls choose their husband by their parents. I think that is because they don’t have high education, and that is Afghan’s tradition. Some Afghan girls even though had high education, but they still choose their husbands by their parents. I hope it will be change in future.
Just Being Concentrated On Ourselves (Bin Ye)
Personal speaking, we people should concentrate on ourselves and be objective to understand the difference between men and women. Because men and women have their own advantage in daily life. In general, women are more and careful in concentrating on details, especially in the interaction with people. Woman can easily observe the thought from a person's little behavior and expression in her eyes. Thus you can see that most of the nurses are women which is a jub that needs patience and loving heart. Also in some of the fields that seems like the place belongs to man sometimes ruled by woman because of the great skills of interaction with people. And men Men have more power to do some genetic job in terms of driver and architecture worker. Another obvious advantage for the man is from thought, which can be seen from business. However, people also put emphasis on the disadvantage what they need to correct . For example that women have disadvantage in ruling, but woman will put more emphasis on the way of communication, which can get more relieve from employees, which can make them work hard and pay more attentions in order to enhance enthusiasm into a higher level. And man should pay more emphasis on details as a result of they are always carefuless.
I think if women and men can understand the advantage what they have each other, there will be no equality between women and men, and also they will correct their disadvantage.
Admiting the Difference First
No matter how developed the world is today, and no matter how fluency we claim the balance between man and woman, we still can’t achieve the absolute equality between two typical genders. Unfortunately there always exists a trend that man has a higher position from ancient to now, even sometimes people have a thought that woman are always discriminated in doing some labor and strength things. When we are young, parents always say that boys should be generous to girls, it is also the result of inequality between two genders. Back to the time Rome, it’s horrible to see that older people threw female infant into the rivers when after they are born, which can’t be accept in current society. Thus it’s not surprised that woman will claim on the equality between two genders. In my point of view, only claiming on one thing that you can’t accept is not enough, why not just admit the difference and try to change? In the matter of facts, we can figure out that two genders both have their advantages in different fields, man is more powerful in labor and strength, while woman is more careful in thought and behavior, which are both necessary in the society. If woman still think that sometimes they are treated as man, what they should is to try to improve and change. With the development of the society, woman are becoming more and more important and outstanding in the society, the number of woman who stand on a higher position in a company and country is increasing, even they can do better in business because of good interpersonal skills. Besides the issue about two genders, when we feel unsatisfied with some problem, what we can do is to take action instead of claiming only, the result could be better and efficiency..
We will be the same. (Shuhui Wang)
I agree with the writer.
Facts are facts, when we talk about rulers, great thinkers or great scientists, males come out fist. How could this happen? I think it is because in primitive society, people feed on hunting and farming. All of these needs strength while males usually stronger than females. So the hunting and farming are depending on males which means males are very important for a tribe’s survival. Gradually, the need for males is more while the society becomes more and more rely on males.
During ancient time, the development of the society is depends on the labor so males govern the society.
In today’s modern world, the society is more and more rely on the intelligence than the labor. Therefore females are become more and more important in today’s world. Females are more and more related to the “great issue”. I believe some day, female and male can have the equal situation.
Oct 18, 2008
HyunJu Ji:Success' consequent price - the loss
- The Achievement of Desire
When I read this article one of Korean dramas was came out from my mind. I don’t remember the title of drama but I think the situation is similar to this article.
In the 1960’s, right after the Korean war, an academic success was the only way to succeed in a poor family. Usually, the eldest son was grown up as a hope of the family. His parents worked hard for his education even his younger siblings worked to make money for him rather than taking schooling. Finally, he graduates famous school, get a good job and get married with a girl who are in a upper class and also rich. Until that, it seems like a happy ending. However, contrary to the poor family’s expectation the succeeded man does not care about their family and even most of dramas depicted the man as a selfish and wicked man. The family angers about no rewards to their sacrifices for him. Moreover, they think they are victims. But, the oldest son says to them even they cannot accept his thoughts, “ It was too hard to endure. Your expectations were so stressful and gaps between home and school were too big. I lived hard for your expectation. And I’m tired of the expectation. Please, set me free.”
“Please, set me free.” This word was so impressed to me. Who can blame him to think about his unspoken hardships. Maybe, he must hide his difficulties somewhere inside of him between two different world. He might be tired of dual lives as a good boy at home and a good student at a school. His family devoted with material things for him but he lost himself rather than to get the family’s expectation.
Who Can Solve my question (Liu Yang Xue)
This sentence appeared in the last paragraph in the “Claim Education”. This sentence was a little complicated. I can understand it from the structure but I still don’t know what the writer really want to say. It also makes me confused in the whole paragraph. Hope you guys can help me solve it!
Where are the other voices(Liu Yang Xue)
It is a long sentence quoted from the Claiming Education and I really begin to realize something. I tried to look back the history again and as it is said the society was a “man” society rather than “human” society. Even among the males, the society is still distinguished. In the western society there was once only the white men’s society.
Where are the other voices? The black and other majority people were mot accounted. From this point we can figure out that it’s even harder for women to be taken into consideration. They might contribute to the society a lot, while they were just ignored by the society.Sometimes even the women themselves were unable to realize that how important they were.
This situation was also common in the ancient Chinese society. Females at that time were taught that there’s no need for a woman to get a high education and all they had to do was to serve their husbands and take care of their children.
Actually, everything that exists must make sense in some run. Sometimes it is good for women to stay home and take care of the family affairs so that the husbands can work outside without worrying about the daily life and the children can get a better education. But in another run, is that really fair to the women? It is a waste of women’s intelligence. The women will also feel less confident without having a job. To them is unfair.
It is the time for females to speak their voices out and to get equal right as the males have.
No choices No comparisions
Different achievements of Women and Men:Quincy Shen
This is a quote from "Claiming an Education" written by Adrienne Rich.
We cannot negate the influences produced from the unfair education system known as the author mentioned "male-centered" education system affect women's mentality balance and need to criticize.
People learnt achievements of women and men from their text books, and almost accept the knowledges or works inside. And the truth is, most of those knowledges are discovered or inferred by men.
For instance, men are rational and strong, many well known maths or physics' formulae are created by men. Otherwise, women are sensibility and circumspect; they may good at art. However, most famous art works are still made by men.
We know there exists some famous best seller books are written by women; but most globular books are still written by men. So what the problem is?
Did people disclaimed women's achievements? The answer is no.
Women and Men learn together, accept the same knowledges which also include women's achievements. But the consequence is different.
The only problem is, women should find a way that they can prove their srength or they can do it better than men do. Anyway, what is the way women can do better? Maybe a better way to solve this problem is taht women need to learn how to change themselves and envrionments, and become stronger, but do not like men.
A good woman is one who is educated(Jiaqi Huang)
----Chooseing Clothes, but Not Husbands
I am agree with this sentence. After I read the artical "Chooseing Clothes, but Not Husbands", I commiserated with the Afghan girls on the right to picking husband. I thought they let their parents choose their husbands because they don't have a good education. A good education can open their mind, let them think about more. The first story's Afghan girls had higher education but still waiting for their parents to pick spouses for them are wrong. What makes them still feel comfy about that? I thought is the family education. Their family keeping to tell them what is the way to pick husbands, they accepted that from childhood. I thought the higher education can change that. Maybe that women still married with a man picked by her parents, but at least she won't tell her children that's the way to pick spouses. The higher education can not change the tradition, but can change people's thought.
Oct 17, 2008
are you managed your success?-heekyung.cho
Choosing Clothes, but Not Husbands (Avish)
Oct 14, 2008
what do you think girls (Jake yoon)
It is quiet hard to say we, male treated female badly.
"it is our shared commitment toward a world in which the inborn potentialities of so many women's mind will no longer be wasted, raveled -away, paralyzed, or denied."
by Adrienne rich
I think it was a natural thing that female had to be deserved like second class? but definitely not now. the thing is that ages ago, males used to go out for hunting and females did houseworks. so the first important thing in life was hunting. so male was treated like first class.
however, now the situation is totally different than before. men have not to treat women like second class people. they can work, they are strong, they can be a president like the same things that men can do. they even better than men.
so my point is that this kind of situation that men treat women like second class, is processing of changing. because of the impact that we have been through from before.
Oct 12, 2008
We are the puzzle piece..(Younghee Jeong)
from the article "people like us"
I gain the sympathy of this quoto when I am thinking about relationship of people.
different thoughts, their feelings and their circumstance... make people seldom fit with other people.. as well as every piece of puzzle has different shapes. In people relationship, it is true that it is not easy to find someone who fits with me, especially, when they really want to find someone who they can share their true heart to each other. Even they have thought that they had already met the person, sometimes it is wrong.
sometimes I also feel that "this puzzle piece seems fit with another piece of puzzle exactly." But even if I am sure that it would be perfect fit, I don't know before I put together the puzzle pieces.
Are you happy for real? (Soo Jin Park)
From ‘Choosing Clothes, but Not Husbands’ by Joseph Berger
When I read the article, I felt so bad for Afghanistan women. Afghanistan people have to change their fixed idea. Clearly, Afghanistan women have rights to be respected as each person. However, this quote means that Afghan women did not recognize the huge problems with their rights. They were too passive in everything. I think they should take the initiative in this matter. (Soo Jin Park)
Heeyoun Huang : Choosing clothes, but not Husbands
"If the girl has a good reputation, the family has a good reputation."
I think that is not true. It all depends all situation. That is part of their culture. they are saying the parents see more than the person see. even though the parents know their relationship by the person with their daughter, they just judge the book by its cover.
I think the parents who keep doing that because of the "Culture or Tradition", that is just being selfish. that's it. good way to keep your family happy is respect them. even though they women or kid whoever, they need to learn understanding and more critical thinking.
it is still big issue in the world because every year, girls killed by their family member. the reason that is because they didn't listen to the elders so didn't make them proud. what is worst is that people in the society don't think it is sort of murder by their own reason.
We need to understand them, however, how can we accept the murder or bad things happening?
daughter or son doesn't represent your family. everyone are part of representive of your family.
Women Have the Same Right as Men (Seungbae Lee)
This qoute is from "Choosing Clothes, but Not Husbands." What makes me write some comments about this quote is Muslim culture about women I can't understand. "A quarter of Afghan women have never been to school and only half have completed high school." I think women have the same right as men. "Men have corrupted vies of Islam." I agree with this comment. Not only Afghan men but also the other Muslim men made Muslim women involve in lower class than men. Women can study, go out to society with men, and choose their husband by herselves.
JinHyun Baek
I thought about my relationship again, when I was reading this.
However, I do not want to doubt my friends about they really think that whether I am their friend or not. I just think like that
If I trust my friends and show that to friends, they will respect me and, we can keep good relationship. If they do not think I am not real friend, and they betray me, I would think they are not my friends.
YunJu Chung "People like us:The Quirkyalones"
After reading these sentences, I really understand. It is hard to suit fancy everyone. So, someone likes to do things single-handed, the others want to do together like me. I don't like to be alone. Sometimes, I want to be, though. These days, many people want to be singles because they don't want to interfere with their freedom. However, as author said, everyone else is part of a couple. Wherever we go, we have to meet each other. We live together, shere sorrows and joy. People who are very nearly related to us will stand by me in time of need. But someone else dose not want,of course.
Therefore, it may be a world of contradictions. We just do live we like and be who we want to.
Things Happen (XIAOJING WU)
This is absolutely a truth.
This article is named “Choosing Clothes, but Not Husbands”. It is no doubt that we all consider “Choosing a Husband, but Not Clothes”. This is already a common believe in the modern society, expect some feudal areas. There are still people choosing husbands as choosing clothes thought they have the same common sense as we do. Why they have to do so? Even though they know what they have done is wrong or violating the common understanding.
That is because there is another power they can not conflict with. It may come from their demand, their desire, their family, etc.
Take family as an example. Sometimes we really don’t want to do something since our parents require or force us to do so, and then we just do it.
Seungho Lee, "My friens have no friends."
no friends. They are men.' is begun to the article. I do not almost agreed the article. I do not
know what the others who are men feel. My father taught me too like 'Men do not cry.' But, I
did not accept that means a controlling my emotions to myself. Men can also express their
feelings like women. Men only have different ways with women's ways.
what Benjamin disraeli said... - (YEAJEONG LEE)
This sentence from "Benjamin disraeli".
I think a lot of people have trials and grief, so because of these trials and grief, people are able to get some pain, and some of people cannot do anything from pain. When man broke up with his lover, he feel very sad, but in few months and years, he will forget and he will not get a lot of pain from that love. That's why i believe this sentence and this is a good medicine for me. Even if i was disappointed in my test score, i will forget this test in few months and years. For saddness or bad thing......"Time is the great physician"..!!
whom and whom can be friend forever?(Jia Qi Huang)
------Man and their hidden feelings
When I read this quote, I don't think so. I thought most friendship can not last forever. Life like a drama, everyone can be the protagonist in their own life.Friends are supporting roles in your drama. They are important, but not forever.
When we go to a new place, there are someone become your friend. But when the day we leave, the friendship maybe gone. The friendship maybe not gone so fast, but after a long time you don't keep in touch with your friend, it is gone. You won't remember the guy used be friend until you meet him again. Because everyone have their own life, say hello and goodbye to friends everyday. They just do something together or share something for a period of time, then the leave, some other friends continue to go in your life.
Some friends will stay for a long time in your life, but how long? who know. Do you know whom and you can be forever friend in future? No one know, even your best friend........
Man and Their Hidden Feelings (Yingshan Hu)
This quote is from an article “Man and Their Hidden Feelings”. Men really have no true friends? I think that is not absolute. But men like to hide their feelings is correct.Men are not like women, women like to share their feelings to her friends, but men usually have hidden their feelings. They have friends, but they are all men, between men and men, they can play with each other, they can drink with each other, they can watch TV or movie with each other, but they are seldom share their feelings to each other. I know men like to call each other brothers, I believe still have true friendships between men and men, and also believe have true friendships between men and women. Friendship is very important to people, especially a really friendship.
Men, don’t hidden your feelings, share your feelings to someone you want to share. You can have a lot of friends, but at least you need to have one close friend, when you feel something do not oppress, you can talk to your close friend, I think that is a good way to make you feel more better.
Man and their hidden feelings (Avish)
Do not hidden your feeling any more! (Shuhui Wang)
Men can be a severe father in front of his children; men can be a trustworthy husband in front of his wife; men can also be a adamant people in front of his friends. But who can hear men's sadness? How can men show their true feelings?
Do not hidden your feeling any more. Men are hunman and have some emotion when they meet frustration. It is will not lose your face if tell your bad feelings to your wife and your cloest friend. Those people who love you will never laugh at you, on the other hand, they hope you can tell them your bad feelings so they can know how to help you, how to make you happy.
In psychology, men will be easy to confused and sadness when they meet midlife crisis(Male happens during 55~65)(General Psychology) so a normal midage man should have some sadness or blue appearance. Show your feelings to your family and friends,they are willing to help you
all those night alone (Jia Qi Huang)
------ from "People like us: The quirkyalone".
I am not a quirkyalone person, but i am totally agree with this sentence. After I come to America, i am alone. I don't have family, friends and boyfriend in here. how many nights I was supposed to spend with them? But now I just sitting in the dorm by myself. All those night become empty, I don't have any plans. Except missing them, I start think about myself more. What am i really want to do? Why i am here?What is my dream? what kinds person am I? I start to think it deeply about myself to get the answer. Before that, i never think about this questions deeply. There are always have lots of people around me before i came here. I thought I am someone's daughter, someone's friend and someone's girlfried. I never thought about who really am I. The lonely night bring me to start think about it.......
Why women have no real friendships?
After I read the sentance I really cannot understand why women have no real friendships. And I don't agree with that. Even though some girls are catty and jealous, we should believe that real friendships exist in the life. Becaus it is not all the girls are catty and jealous. I think some men also are catty and jealous. We cannot judge the friendships on one sidedness. Most girls treat their firend genuinely. And in my experience my female friends all have their real good friends. That's why I don't agree with that.
Oct 11, 2008
HyunJu Ji : Hiding feelings is the other way of expression
- Men and Their Hidden Feelings
Well, even I’m a woman I don’t think so that men are the Third World People.
I think some forced social role transformed men as the Third World People for a while and hiding feelings are another expression way to express their feelings.
Still lots of family depends on a household, usually a father in a family. After a man became an adult he should prepare a job and work hard for his future family. And after a marriage, most of men have no time for their selves. During that time, men have lots of colleague at work. However, colleagues are just colleagues who are in rival relationships at work. That’s a problem. Actually, men have lots of chances to meet people than women. But, finding a friend who can talk about their mind is difficult.
Like this processes in our society enforces men to hide their feelings in public. But, to think in different, men are victims of our society. Moreover, hiding their feelings are last resorts to protect them selves. In short, hiding feelings are another way of expression for men .
Does real friendship exist? (Svetlana)
from Men and Their Hidden Feelings by Richard Cohen
This paradox fraise has a deep meaning. For me it’s kind of upsetting to hear such a saying. After reading this article in my head arisen a question: Does such a meaningful word as “friendship” exist in real life? Or we know about loyal to each other “friends” just from books and movies?
It’s very common when close friends become enemies because of jealousy, money or women. However, I know men myself who are like brothers to each other. For many years of friendship nothing could change their closeness. Maybe it’s just a quality of certain cultures?
Anyways I believe in true friendship both men and women. I really hope people, who I think are real friends to me, they are not just an illusion.
Is that a really good "TRADITION"?(Yongfei Gu)
Feel Doubt, Give Respect
When I read this sentence, the fist thought comes to my mind is doubt and sad. It is sad that a woman don’t have the right to choose her husband. We can image what kind of life they must have, probably when they are born, their husband has been decided by their parents, and even it’s hard to have a close male friend. Their whole life has been decided by their parents, how can have personal goal and pursued. Personally speaking, I can’t accept this kind of old tradition. We always talk about the balance between man and woman; woman should have the same right and chance in family and society. But if we consider it as a tradition of a nation, we will find the reason and give respect. Although their parents insist on choosing husband for her daught, it is possibility that it’s not their willing, they are also forced by tradition. Even they may have the same experience when they are young. For the daughter, although they want to choose husband by themselves, if it will break the relationship with her parents and bring negative influence for her family, she will choose to obey the tradition. Tradition must have a long history and special charm which is considered by people, even some tradition has become straggly with the development of society, but people are still willing to follow it and express it to the offspring. Different nations have different tradition. Even we can’t accept and understand it, but what we should do is just respect it and accept the difference.
Oct 10, 2008
It is enough to have one real friend...Quincy Shen
This is a quote from "Men and their hidden feelings" written by Richard Cohen.
In his mind, men's real friends need to share all their emotions and should not keep their hidden feelings. When a man wants to open up, it usually means he is willing to talk, typically to his mate.
But why they do not want to "open up"? Someone said "for some men, this feels like giving up our identity as men, and it feels dangerous."
Because some men think they "cry like a little girl; or they are perceived by women as soft males, or even wusses and wimps; or our anger or passion is frightening or abusive, our grief overwhelming."
Otherwise, people think "men may not talk about feelings because they do not know how, or because they do not see the point. And expressing feelings nonverbally is something not commonly done in public."
Because of the different gender, men and women's feelings are quite different. Women like to share their feelings to others no matter they are real friends or not.
However, some people will never have a real friend because of their suspiciousness. They think friends are those people who can be used; and they do not want to suffer losses.
Not only men, but also women are hard to find a real friend. And the main point is how to define the real friend in your mind. For some people, real friends are those who can sacrifice most important things for their friends; and the basic thing is to be honest. This doesn't mean you need to talk every useless thing to your friends unless you have some really trouble things need to solve without your friends; and never think about repayment and to use each other.
Anyway, to have one real friend in our lives is an extremely thing needs to celebrate. Although It is really hard, but "impossible is nothing"; things are not absolute. Try to make real friends, just begin from yourself.
Brotherhood
Oct 9, 2008
do i have real guy friends? (Jake yoon)
'they think, for instance, that im their friend, but im not. it's ok. they're not my friend either'
Men and Their Hidden Feelings by RICHARD COHEN
i read this article 3 tiems.. i feel like i lost my guy friends after i read this article. isn't it funny.?
whenever i think about my guy friends, they are my beer friends, or conversation friends or just friends that say hi, or maybe real my friends. before i read this article, i thought i have many real guy friends that i can talk about my everything, however, there are just few of them.
when i want to talk about serious stuff, usually i don't tell my guy friends. not because i don't believe them just becuase i feel uncomfortable. 'do they think im crazy? do they think im homo?' so i talk to female friends or family.
after i came to the united states, it became worse. most of my american friends are muscular and they don't talk about girly things. if i talk about my problem and serious stuff, they will laught at me and they are not gonna look at me like before they did. i think that's because here in the united states more have gay people than back in my country. i will give an example, at my age back in korea, most people listen to ballads than hip hop or rap. but in here, united states, if someone listens ballads, they are treated as gay or WEIRD guy.
but it is cultural difference, so it doesn't matter.
i think there is something else between males that females cannot think about it.
so is there something between females that males do not know? tell me
facts of spotlight -Heekyung.CHO
-Qoute from Shasha Cagen, People Like us : The Quirkyalones"
I definitely understand that sentence. Because, someone who was really popular actress in Korea. She was really popular actress in our country. But, she had a mental depression. She is a hypochondraic. The specific mental diesase name is " Masked mental depression." That means, all of actress and actors have to smiling in front of the spotlight. They have no private life, show their real mind and so on.. they have a lot of problem phenomenon in their mind.
Anyway, So, After she got their mental dieases , she always say " I am always alone, I feel lonely every day.. I am so tired ... and so on.." after all she kill herself in despair.
It's too sad story . And its actual society in actress and actor life.
I am really sad ...
Remove Your False Eye Glasses , Mayur Raniya.
It's a saying in Afghanistan. The reason why i choose this quote is to illustrate the people of the world about the issues of women in the world. Men in Afghanistan think that women are the second-class citizens and are there to take care for them. They don't let them go to school or to work and men actually think they have a right under the Koran to beat their wives. Moreover, women get engaged at the age of 13 and get married when they are 16. They can't study further once they are done with their school. When i heard about this situation of women in Afghanistan, i got cold blooded. I was feeling bad for them. I have seen this kind of situation in India too. There is a state called "Rajasthan" in India. It's a tourist place and it is famous for their beautiful palaces. I knew a friend who belonged to that place. I was shocked when i he told me about his life. He got engaged when he was just 14 and got married when he was 18. His father had already fixed his marriage with that girl when he was just 5 yrs old. After he got married, i went to his home to visit him and when i reahed there i saw that his wife was wearing a long garment covering her head. She got me a glass of water and at that time i asked her how are you? She did not reply me. I felt bad for a moment but when my friend told me that in their religion women are not allowed to talk with anybody unless that person is your family member and if they caught doing that, then there is no place for them in their society. This is strange but true. In my opinion, people should stop doing that and let women see how beautiful world is. They should be given as much rights as men have today. Today, In this 21st Century, women are competing with men and they have shown excellent work just because they had proper education. There are such people like my friend who still follow the old tradition and live life following that old belief . This shows that they are lack of education. Education is the most improtant thing in individual's life. By doing so someone can get more and more knowledge from his/her surroundings and improve him/herself day by day. Today women are also needed for the progress of the country because one can see that they have different way of thinking than men and we can get variety of opinios to deal with any issues. Finally, i would request the people who still follow the old traditon that It is better to get women educated and let them share all those rights that men share. By doing so, we can generate a better generation in the furture and that will lead our country towards progress.
Let's gamble on it ( xiaoshu zhu)
The writer in the article “People Like Us: Quirkyalones”, he called himself qoirkyolones, who like to be single all the time. Most of the people like to enjoy the single life, but for them, it is a very important part to be married in their lives. As I come from a traditional family, I would like to get marry for many reasons. My parents believe that marriage and children are the responsibility for women. When I read this article, I really change my mind for one moment. In that moment, I really want to keep single forever because just like he said that no one could make me get hurt if I am single, as well as I could be everyone’s friend as a single. However, the feeling of keeping single just lasted for just that moment. I think marriage seems to be like an adventure, if you could find a good partner, you’ll win. Although there are risk existed, most of the people still want to gamble on it. There are hopes in their hearts.
Oct 7, 2008
When I was young.... Heekyung.CHO
Quote from -Men and Their Hidden Feelings.-
When I was young , I belived that it was women who had real friendships and men who did not.
Because , I am a women . So, I believed my gender friendship. But I did not belived the other gender's (men's) friendship.
I think that the sentence is a biased view. It comes from gender.
If I was men, I also may beliving about men's friendship. But now, I am a women!
So, I was believing my own gender's friendship.
Men and Women have gender prejudice each other. But it makes different gender's characteristic. I think that different gender comes from different thinking.
So, The different thinking can make men and women.
Men Can Also Cry (Liu Yang Xue)
I quote this sentence because I feel it’s interesting. As a female, it is for sure that I will feel interested in what kind of friendship that the men have. And I think this sentence really described this relationship well.
As the author said in the sentence, if two men are really good friends, they may play together, drink together or even fight together. All what they do will make their friendship stronger and stronger, even though it, the two best friends will never show their real feeling to each other. That seems to be strange to the females. We can always see two girl friends talking to each other. They share their sorrows and happiness together. But we seldom see two guys sit in a café and talk to each other about their though feelings. Even one is willing to talk; it will make the other one uncomfortable. As time goes by, the men always give us a feeling that they are strong and even the world will ruin in the next minute they will hide their frightening alone, never say it out.
If we see a girl crying, we may give mercy on her and sometimes even feel she is pretty when she is crying. However when a man cries, we may find it is really hard to understand. Some people may even blame that how can he cry?
Men also need to show their feelings and it’s time for them to say it out!
In the end, I will show a very famous song which was sung by a famous singer in China—Andy Lau. He used his voice to announce that a man didn’t make any mistakes when he cried.
Oct 6, 2008
TRY everything when you're young (jake yoon)
-Steve Chen.
First of all, who is Steve Chen?
i was watching a new music video , and i was faced to interview with korean who is president of JYP entertainment and Steve Chen. they were talking about what You Tube in korea is going to impact to korean society. so i was wondering about him.
Steve Chen was born in Taiwan, and he is the Chief Technology Officer of the popular video sharing website You Tube.
He is just ten years older than me and he is a billionair. isn't it amazing?
A lot of people have a lot of ideas, because everybody has a different thought. if you don't use your ideas, it becomes trash. the fact is that i am still young and if i use my ideas well, i could be rich or famous. i want to try whatevery i want to do whether i fail or success because i can learn from the fail too.
he tried what he wanted to do, and he became a success man in the world. just small idea, just small incredible thought becomes you to be a million, billionair.
maybe i should think about my ideas and try right now.
Oct 4, 2008
Virginia Woolf's Words on Gender Issue
Today's "Quotation of the Day" is about gender issue. Most men won't admit they have any discrimination toward women. And people should admit that women have really succeeded in their emancipation.
Then is it out of date to mention the topic of gender discrimination today?
By the way, do you know who is Virginia Woolf? For this question, wikipedia might be a good starting point.
Leslie
Why so serious? Svetlana
Oct 1, 2008
Why Jews think they are superior(Yongfei Gu)
But why Jews think they are superior?
According some materials, they show that, there are 5,600,000 Jews, the proportion of the population of the United States accounted for only 1.9 percent, but in the top 400 rich men in the United States, there are one hundred Jews.The American Jews,their average household income is higher than the average US level of 40%. Jews in the United States are engaged in most of the doctors, lawyers, businessmen, teachers and other industries. For example,the famous inventor Einstein, he is a Jew.
Jew think they are superior, and so they are. Definitely, it is inseparably linked to their education. I've heard a story before, which is very typical Jewish story between mother and children.
"If one day, your house burned down, you are looted, and what kind of thing you'll bring with yourself when you ran away?" Asked the mother.
"Money," one child answered.
"Diamond," another child said.
"There is one thing which is shapeless, colorless and invisible, do you know what is it?" Asked the mother.
The children couldn't find the answer.
The mother smiled and told them,"The only thing you should take with yourselves isn't money or diamond, that is your wisdom. Nobody can take away your wisdom, as long as you are alive, your wisdom will be together with you forever and wherever you go, you'll never lose it."
Since they are little children, their family tell them, wisdom is very important for a person. So, so many Jews can have their successful life.
In a nutshell, I believe that Jews think they are superior and so they are. Most of them are really superior in the world.